Dating Apps

About once or twice a year, I get bored and download dating apps. Guess it's like a secret candy crush type of addiction. Being confined to my bed this week, I downloaded a few(okay, maybe 7). This is a story, so before you interrupt with a comment saying that dating apps are stupid or "why would you need a dating app" questions, let me say my peace. In today's world we live in a time where people prefer technology over relationships. And honestly, I prefer practicing yoga, working out, making money, and spending time with my children over getting drunk, pointless dates, and cat calls from thugs that can't hold a convo much less speak or text the English language (even though they apparently were born & raised in America). Never a dull moment when you have the power of the vagina, right ladies? Anywho, I'm swiping left, right, mostly left, and it dawns on me how many dudes have NO confidence whatsoever. I mean really, let's think about this. You don't have the guts to talk to your woman crush at work, or the gym, or church or at the bar, so you go online to a dating site post inappropriate pictures and site everything you want in a woman. Yet, you can't scrimmage up the courage to actually speak to someone in the real moments of life? Don't get me wrong, I know rejection hurts. Believe me, I got stood up more than three times this past fall as well as told I'm not first choice or better seen as the back up plan. Sucks like a muther, but I've learned to not take it personal. We can't let others warped realities shape ours. I'm not bashing dating sites, I have friends & family whose lives got better from it by meeting the love of their life on one. I'm just saying that our personality online, including Facebook users, should reflect our personality off-line. What happened to: what you see is what you get? Why do we need filters, why can't we just say the truth(with manners of course). Whatever happened to the risk takers, the ones that take life by the balls? Approach someone in real life and start a conversation. Settling is for wimps, for people that haven't a clue. I don't want to go on a date with someone that can't figure out how to live without their phone. Moments are here & now, fleeting, so revel in them. My philosophy on dating is back to what is was when I was in high school....pointless stupid waste of time. Why bother when you can be living life?!? The best fit for you will see you as their match in the daily environment you create. You will blow their socks off without the picture filters, the things you've accomplished, or the fancy profile you've made. That smile, your personality, that laugh, the way you handle life, how you dance, what you say, and everything great about you is what your truest soulmate falls madly in love with. And nothing compares to that, the real raw you.

I'm done here....too much sick time up in here, up in here, goodnight.